Month: January 2017

  • Optimal hopelessness

    A patient was angry with her husband. As I started to explore her anger, there was no sighing. Hmm. I thought. “This must be a defense.” I paused and asked what this anger made her want to do. She said she wanted to bring up his failure to pay for their children’s college, even though…

  • Confidentiality

    “I visit your page to read your posts about the importance and kindness of accepting and experiencing one’s feelings. I find them helpful and beautifully written. But as a patient, it makes me uncomfortable to read the detailed questions that therapists ask you. The first paragraph of your most recent post, ‘she attacks me as…