Month: August 2016

  • How to Work with Self-Deprecation

    “A client thinks of himself as a “joke”, so he interprets other people’s actions poorly and then gets mad at them. For instance, a relative who hasn’t called him for a while called him up and asked him for work. He got mad, thinking his cousin thinks he’s a joke. He does this so much,…

  • Shouldn’t there be contempt for the defenses?

    Some have said so, but I disagree. Gottman’s studies of couples resulted in one of the most powerful findings in psychotherapy research: when one member of a couple expresses contempt for the spouse, 94% of those couples will divorce. Contempt is one of the most destructive emotions for relationships. If it has no place in…