Month: February 2015

  • The disembodied life

    Feelings are the physical expression of unconscious emotions. If we ward off and attribute those feelings to others, we live a disembodied life. We never metabolize the truth of ourselves because we relocate it in others. Whatever feeling we don’t like, we avoid, withdrawing our love and acceptance, dooming those feelings to be permanent refugees […]

  • I hate myself. Will you love me now?

    While exploring her feelings in therapy, the patient said she hated herself. I encouraged the therapist to explore what feelings the patient had toward her that could be under the self-hatred. My supervisee asked, “Why ask about feelings toward me? She was talking about feelings toward her father.”   One of the most important questions […]