Month: December 2014

  • What is the true feeling?

    “How can I be sure that the patient’s emotional reaction is a feeling to be explored or a defensive affect to be blocked? When I asked the patient about feelings toward a dismissive father, she said anger. But when I asked how she felt the anger, she started crying and felt sad. I thought her…

  • Zero Negativity

    The other day I attended a presentation where a noted therapist described a goal for relationships: zero negativity. I thought, “how tragic.” He proposed the ideal of having no conflicts. Yet conflict is embedded in our lives. We have conflictual desires within ourselves. Our desires conflict with those of others. My wife and I always…