Month: July 2014

  • The Universal Lies in Life and Therapy

    What is a lie?  Speaking an untruth. “Did you eat the sandwich in the fridge?” “No.” [When you really did.] Simple. But there is a different kind of lie that is more common, even universal. A lie we don’t see in ourselves or even in others. What is this lie?   A defense. The British…

  • Against the idea of cure in therapy

    How many of us have wanted to be ‘cured’, ‘enlightened’, ‘resolved’, ‘at peace with the past’, where we can finally, once and for all, say, “I’ve got the answer.” We have an image of some teacher, supervisor, maybe someone we have heard of, who has reached some extraordinary state of mind. My ideal was someone…